Why is my sister dating a freeloading loser? | Yahoo Answers
As for her loser boyfriend, say something like these points: I've Now that I'm 32 and my younger sister (20 yo) is dating the carbon copy of. Why do you care? I get it, it's your sister. But who are you to judge who your sister is dating? It's her own choice whether you like it or not. I am at my wit's end. My sister (20 years old) is dating a complete loser. I'm trying to refrain from preaching to her or trying to convince her to.
If he feels that this is what he needs to do until she is able to stand on her own two feet then that is his business alone. Don't allow your envy to come between them. You may not like it and think it is unfair to you but every person is different. Perhaps you have better coping mechanisms and this is why you are able to be more independent whereas your sister is a different person who may be more needy emotionally.
You and your parents have no right to tell her who to date.
She is not a child and although she is still supported financially by her family she is an adult and adults are able to make their own decisions. You would be doing more damage by telling her she is not 'allowed' to date this guy because that would be treating her like a child who is unable to make her own decisions so the belief that she can't take care of her self will get rooted into her mind even deeper.
You can only state your opinion but you cannot make demands.
What to do if your sister or daughter is dating a loser?
You have done that and she has chosen to remain with him. There is nothing more you can or should do in this case. She needs to learn from her own mistakes and you need to back off and focus on your own life instead. Just want to first thank you for the reply. I guess you are right. As her brother, I really should back off. And I think I am going to."SO YOU'RE DATING MY SISTER?"
It just sucks, because she is seeing someone who is not right for her. She is 25 years old, and is being devious and tells lies about where she is at, and who she is meeting. She'll still get friends to 'cover' for her, while she is at her boyfriends place. If she acts like a kid, then she should be treated like a kid.
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That's what I'm thinking. Having said that, I have decided to back out, and let my parents deal with it. The problem is, that my parents take a lot of my advice. So I know I have influence is some of the decision they make. He doesn't seem to mind that she wheezes and coughs the whole time she is there because she can't breathe. Second red flag Not only that, but she will often spend her entire visit talking to his stepmom or watching his brothers while he watches TV in another room.
Third red flag She invited him to Thanksgiving, with the agreement that she would eat Thanksgiving dinner with his family too. My parents were excited; they were finally going to get to meet her guy.
Unfortunately, our family is eating dinner at the same time his family is eating dinner. So, as a solution, my sister suggested to her guy that they eat with their own families, then hang out later in the evening. His response was to tell her that the only reason he was going to his grandmother's for Thanksgiving was so that she could meet his extended family, and that he wouldn't even be able to get to his grandmother's house if she didn't drive him, so he might as well sit at home alone and eat pizza rolls for Thanksgiving.
I've never asked you to do anything for me, just this once, could you please do this for me? She will not dump him. I am desperately trying to figure out how to convince her that this guy is no good, and is only taking advantage of her. He wants her to move into his trailer with his family, because his last girlfriend lived there too.
My sister has been in so many yelling matches with my parents over this that I'm afraid one day she's just going to pack her stuff and move in there.
She's not financially ready to move out, but I'm afraid her heart is going to give her some bad advice. What do I do??