A Guide to INFP Relationship Compatibility With Other Personality Types
Be careful about dating an INFP if you are a person who loves doing things for show, competing with people, or getting/doing the “best” things. Statistics show that the INFP females tend to get attracted to INFP, INFJ, ENJF, ENFP males, while INFP males prefer INFJ females. and Thinking-Feeling compatibility of the INFP-ENFJ personalities holds Dating Advice. If the ENFJ male attempts to date someone who is not very mature ENFJ males might complain that they have trouble finding women, but will.
Handling conflict with kid gloves INFPs want nothing more than to be happy and make their partners happy. We want everyone to win. This makes the unavoidable conflict of being in a relationship difficult because it hurts us not only to be hurt but also to see our partners hurt and know that we are the culprits. Yes, in relationships we should have fights, but we should use them to grow and improve. We need partners who will remain calm and not say things in anger that will be difficult for us to forget after the fight is over.
Work towards resolving the conflict, not lashing out in anger or hurting the other person because it feels better momentarily. Physical touch INFPs love touching and being touched. Holding hands when walking down the street, giving long back rubs at the end of a long week, cuddling on the couch while watching a movie — we love all of it. We need a partner who enjoys giving and receiving touch as well. Being our better half in social settings INFPs are not naturally social butterflies.
With the Feeling preference dominating their personality, harmony and warm feelings are central to the INFP's being. They feel a need to be in a committed, loving relationship. If they are not involved in such a relationship, the INFP will be either actively searching for one, or creating one in their own minds.
INFPs' tendency to be idealistic and romantically-minded may cause them to fantasize frequently about a "more perfect" relationship or situation. They may also romanticize their mates into having qualities which they do not actually possess. Most INFPs have a problem with reconciling their highly idealistic and romantic views of life with the reality of their own lives, and so they are constantly somewhat unsettled with themselves and with their close personal relationships. However, the INFP's deeply-felt, sincere love for their mates and their intense dislike of conflict keeps the INFP loyal to their relationships, in spite of their troubles achieving peace of mind.
Unlike other types who tend to hold their mates up on a pedastal, the INFP's tendency to do so does not really turn into a negative thing in the relationship. INFPs hold tightly to their ideals, and work hard at constantly seeing their mates up on that pedastal.
The frequent INFP result is a strongly affirming, proud and affectionate attitude towards their mates which stands the test of time. INFPs are not naturally interested in administrative matters such as bill-paying and house-cleaning, but they can be very good at performing these tasks when they must.
They can be really good money managers when they apply themselves.
Understanding the ENFJ Male
Sexually, the INFP is likely to be initially slow to open up to their mates. Once their trust has been earned, the INFP will view sexual intimacy as an opportunity for expressing their deep-seated love and affection. More than the actual sexual act, they will value giving and receiving love and sweet words.
With their tendency to enjoy serving others, they may value their mates satisfaction above their own. One real problem area for the INFP is their intensive dislike of conflict and criticism.
The INFP is quick to find a personal angle in any critical comment, whether or not anything personal was intended. They will tend to take any sort of criticism as a personal attack on their character, and will usually become irrational and emotional in such situations. If the opinion is negative, the TJ's attitude may be threatening to the INFP, who will tend to respond emotionally to the negativity and be vaguely but emphatically convinced that the negativity is somehow the INFP's fault.
For INFPs with extremely dominant Feeling preferences who have not developed their Intuitive sides sufficiently to gather good data for their decision making processes, their dislike of conflict and criticism can foretell doom and gloom for intimate relationships.
These INFPs will react with extreme emotional distress to conflict situations, and will not know what to do about it. Since they will have no basis for determining what action to take, they will do whatever they can to get rid of the conflict - which frequently means lashing out irrationally at others, or using guilt manipulation to get their mates to give them the positive support that they crave. They are often very emotionally mature from a young age, which can be challenging when it comes to dating.
If the ENFJ male attempts to date someone who is not very mature themselves, it can be extremely difficult for them.
Their romantic interests might see their sensitivity and their attentiveness as a bad thing, and will instead go looking for a more aloof male. Because of this the male ENFJ might struggle to date when they are younger, but will likely do very well if they attempt to date above their age group. ENFJs males are often extremely flirty individuals, who enjoy being social and playful with others.
They simply enjoy being playful and flirting with others, this is because they are friendly people. ENFJs can certainly admire an attractive individual, but they are likely interested in serious relationships. They dislike surface connections, and prefer to search for something real and meaningful. They Enjoy Beauty ENFJs are deep individuals, with extremely rich inner minds- buy they also enjoy aesthetically beautiful things.
Male ENFJs are often visually oriented, and will find themselves drawn to things that they find beautiful. This can sometimes cause them to be seen as shallow, but that simply is not the case. They just enjoy admiring the beauty around them, and will often soak it up when they can.
They are often drawn to people that they find physically attractive, but only fall in love with the individuals that also have beautiful souls to along with their outer shell.IDEAL GIRLFRIEND: INFP Personality
They are also perfectionists, which can sometimes make dating difficult for them. They want to find someone who they can truly connect with, and they usually know exactly what they are attracted to.