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Harvey (center), flanked by Mr. Chow from 'The Hangover' and Han Lee and How to Date a White Woman: A Practical Guide for Asian Men. Actor, comedian and physician Ken Jeong is known for his roles in films Asian mobster Mr. Chow in the sleeper-hit comedy film The Hangover, The couple has twin daughters, Alexa and Zooey. Original Published Date. Hi everyone Everytime I go outside, I can see many foreign guys with a Chinese girlffriend, but I never see any foreign women with a Chinese .
I feel like Asians fall into that gray area of not being accepted as a person of color while being seen as a weird fetish. Vicky is an American of Vietnamese, Korean and Chinese descent. She's a straight woman living in Austin, Texas.
What have been your experiences on dating apps? As for my experiences with the others? Full of white guys. I tried East Meet East.
I was on it for less than 30 minutes and deleted my account. Bumble and OKC have been the best so far in terms of matches and responses. However, I get the sense that not many women that make their way to Pittsburgh are looking for a guy who looks or thinks like me. How does your Asian-ness intersect with your ideas on masculinity? I grew up practicing self-defense and playing competitive sports, but I also cooked and cleaned and sang and danced in musicals. The women I have dated understood that I desired equality within a relationship, that we would be partners.
Dhara is a straight Indian-American woman living in New Jersey. What have your experiences been like dating newly arrived Asian immigrants? Physical appearance is something they always bring up and they always come on extremely strong and in your face from the beginning. Yes, because my parents have two pretty different perspectives: The fetishization Asian-American women have to deal while dating is pretty widespread.
The level of uncertainty and stereotypes attatched is probably one of the most prominent factors on why they tend to date white guys. CC on October 17, I'm not a KKK member or anything" This is a dumb simplification. It goes both ways. There are Asian parents who want their kids to marry only their own nationality, just like their are Anglo Australian parents who want their kids marrying only other Anglos.
I have no preference over race, the reason I love her is that we are so compatible as people.
A Letter to That Awkward Asian Kid From a White Girl
Race has never been issue, I remember when I started dating her she asked, "Are you into Asian girls? I had passed the test as she has been hit up with heaps of guys stating "I love asians" and so forth. They would all be looking for this stereotypical asian girl. And so many accurate perspectives. As an Asian male of Chinese heritage brought up in Australia, there still is today a massive weight of responsibility to carry on the bloodline.
This is the weight of thousands of years of tradition, where Chinese males are placed above Chinese females on the family hierachy. Hence it is not so important for a Chinese female as it is a Chinese male to date their own race and continue the bloodline. Dont get me wrong, it has something to do with stature, confidence and the white vs Asian sex appeal. But eventhough I am a 6ft tall asian guy who loves a good time, I would date a caucasian woman, never marry one.
SlantyChinga on October 17, Automatically the older white guy is known as a rice queen, and I am sure there is true love, respect and affection in their relationship, but I am not sure why this phenomenon occurs so frequently. Personally, when it comes to asian men, although some of the eurasian men are very good looking, for me the physical attraction comes down to size.
I personally find men who are similiar height, same build more attractive, than slightly built men. I say each to their own and who gives a fat what others think yes easier said than done I know Daler on October 17, I have to say that the physical relationship is very different. Sorry to those of you who are offended by this I am talking about a Caucasian man with Asian woman.
Yes it is my generalisation, but if you don't like it go out and get your own experience Sino Man on October 17, I even took a lovely Asian boy to my formal. KR on October 17, I am a white girl. I'm not necessarily referred to as Australian looking - which angers me, because that's what I am! As a result, when people met him, the most common reaction I got was "He didn't look how I expected him to look. Tash on October 17, I am a "white" girl, and I find Asian men to be on the whole very attractive.
At uni I had a crush on a Korean guy, but another girl got to him first and no, she wasn't Asian. Every morning there is a very attractive Asian guy on my train and I happily feast my sunglass clad eyes on him. I'd have no problem going out with an Asian guy, but most of the ones I've met tend to stick to Asian girls White men are happy to bonk Asian women because they're into conquests and they're patronising bastards who like to be superior. How many times have you met a white guy with an Asian lady partner, who adopts that pathetic pseudo-Asian ie.
White women on the other hand just want Ken dolls to breed with and pump out vanilla kids. Culturally, many Asians are brought up to focus more on 'success' than 'intrigue', I guess. Scissors on October 17, Your final comment re anon summed it up Having never dated an asian woman, you are correct in what you say I don't know what I'm talking about there.
But, I have known a few asian women who really disliked the objectification of themselves as subserviant geishas. I don't know that it is flogging the feminist horse, as you say, I think it may be a matter of looking at individuals as such, not as an amorphous social blob of cute, subservient hello kitty worshippers who want caucasian blokes to dominate them.
Lefty, if I were to say all asian men have little dicks and shares in OPSM would I perhaps be a little broad and ignorant in my assessment? Your experience may be true for you, but I suspect you are attracted to these qualities your previous partners have shown. That's cool, your choice, and theirs, but I don't think you can rubberstamp a whole generation of asian women with the subserviant tag.
Not fair, and not true. Prince Charming was always a blonde in my fairytale books. So was Sleeping Beauty That's hard to cop when you are a brunette kid Fairytales of that type go back to the time when blondes were revered as a sign of purity and godliness and most of those stories have Germanic roots and are cautionary tales The original stories make for far more illuminating reading The reason it is uncommon is that most people are so shallow.
Shallow guys are the same everywhere in what they consider beautiful and they all agree that asian chicks are hot. Shallow girls are different in every culture. In Australia it seems to be the body that they judge a guy on bad news for most asian guys. Perhaps in Swizerland they go for someone who speaks a couple of languages and has a degree good news for many asian guys. Perhaps every guy in Australia who isn't pulling should just start travelling more to find the country where shallow chicks want him.
Girls with the same problem probably should spend the money on plastic surgery or faketan. Tarantulina on October 17, Generally, Asian guys tend to have old-fashioned values which are incompatible with my own.
Anje on October 17, Im an asian migrant girlstudied here and now working here. Im as asian as you get basically. I had an asian boyfriend and now a caucasian boyfriend. I dont treat them any different, i still whinge at them, i still tell them how i want things done, and I DONT let them get their way every time. I personally dont think it matter s what race you are.
Why do white chicks dont date asian guys? So is asian men do not always equals femininenerdy and sh-- in bed. So what im an Asian girl on October 17, I didn't mention a single thing about asian chicks being subservient or geisha like, I just said that they tend to hassel guys less, the kind of hasselling you just gave me in your reply was absent with the four asian chicks I was with.
As to agreeing with anon, I was just trying to say that the proportion of asian chicks who fall into the tight package category is pretty high compared to other races, which is certainly not a bad thing.
Don't really understand why you went for the cheap shot on asian guy's sexual prowess and high incidence of sight problems, you're normally a little better than that. Met my wife white, English, came to Australia when she was two at Uni when she was going out with one of my white aussie classmates. I found her attractive, I asked her out, that was it. I was just interested in getting to know her better. If you are an asian male and if you are like that, then all I can say is "Fortunes favour the brave" and "All is fair in love and war".
All you can do is ask, if the girl rejects you, take it on the chin. Men get rejected by women all the bloody time. It could be something as simple as something like "i will never go out with a smoker" or thousands of other reasons that has nothing to do with race.
A Letter to That Awkward Asian Kid From a White Girl
And if it's really something to do with race, then consider yourself lucky that you find out sooner rather than later that race is an issue.
Don't moan about it, just move on. Jason on October 17, And women think MEN are shallow. Damian on October 17, Ultimately, we are looking for someone with the highest probability of connecting with - too many differences reduce that probability.
Birds on October 17, Choose someone who makes you happy - regardless of skin colour. I wrote before about dating asian men which was a great experience - currently i am with an Aussie anglo guy - who is a fabulous man. Think for yourself people! That is the person who you will wake up with and share your life with.
Live with an open heart and open mind. Dare to think and be true to yourself. I have married a white woman, we have a 2-year old daughter. I won't even lose a minute of sleep if I never have a son with a Chinese woman or if my bloodline ends with me. I don't understand why is it so important to continue any family's bloodline. I honestly think enough Asian men are approaching Aussie girls for the ball to be firmly in their court. Be interested to see this topic in Sam in the City perhaps?
Or even 'Why Asian men don't approach white girls? They're just not interested.
When I went to Vietnam a few years ago I was followed everywhere I went by the local women who could not get enough of touching my hair and skin and telling me they wanted to look like me, have my hair etc. I think that subconciously, by dating a 'white' man, some Asian women may be working towards a goal of not becoming 'white' themselves, but having their children lighter.
And anon, as always your contributions are invalubale, but if you are after a 'tight entry' as you so eloquently put it - why don't you go after a muslim or african woman who has been circumcised? Or does this not fit the "I perform for you" picture of a sexy woman read Asian you have stored in your wank tank???? PinkPeril on October 17, I'm white and I have a fabulous, gorgeous Asian boyfriend.
He's everything i want in a man - kind, thoughtful, intelligent and sexy. He's the real deal. Maybe it is because of the size thing - women like taller, bigger guys. Anyway I don't get it. I see lots of gorgeous Asian men. They dig Caucasian girls coz they are well known for their hot bodies. Asian girls are too skinny and are often flat-chested. Asian men are very shallow. I can understand why no Caucasian women like to date Asian men coz these men expect their women to be submissive and loyal to only them.
But they themselves can go screw around. I married a Caucasian guy coz he values me as I am and loves me for my personality. SingaporeGirl on October 17, Because they are generally physically of smaller build than anglo girls? Is that what you mean?
Your choices are your own. If you go for girls who fit the stereotype that you like that is no concern of mine. You know as well as I do that the comment regarding asian men and penis size and opsm was not attacking asian males, it was summarising the stereotypes that are made regarding these men. Don't try to twist what I have already made abundantly clear. Read what I have to say more carefully, if you don't wish to be accused of torting my meaning.
You would never just read and react because I posted it, would you? Not just to stir the shit and play the game with me, eh? And the comment re "you're normally a little better than that. You change the way you read my words regularly. I know plenty of Asian men, and I get along well with all of them, but I don't consider them potential partners. That's not to say I would ever rule it out, but I'm not going to hook up with someone based on race, there has to be some kind of attraction.
Jelly Belly on October 17, You're after a woman who won't challenge you and will make you feel like more of a 'real man'. It'd probably be even better if she was stupid, wouldn't it?
Before you go and inflict yourself on girls because you think they're submissive, you might want to deal with your own issues. Sh-- who wants to be waited upon hand and foot, and to have to completely support someone? I know one thing for sure: Here's something you might want to try: Go and get a woman who's got some sort of go and some brains. That adds to the issue, with large numbers of men, partly because of the financial costs of marriage, are opting to marry later.
And when they do settle down they are often looking for younger women. Age gaps of 10 to 20 years or more are common in Chinese marriages.
Of course, the reverse can also be true. The parent trap Parents are a big source of pressure to find a partner, pronto. Parents getting involved—really involved. Alamy Then there are the outdoor marriage markets. Some parents have been known to visit the market every week for years with no success. The shift in how people meet and how men woo partners, is, above all, putting a greater emphasis on love rather than on practical considerations such as financial security.