Why Do Guys Avoid The Party Girl? A Real Guy Explains
To us, a party girl is the embodiment of everything we think we want and need. making it harder for a girl to go out, have a few drinks, dance on a bar, characteristic of perfection and discouraged to not date the party girl. I danced on bars. Duck face was my go-to pose. I was THAT girl. Why would you date someone who goes out a lot when you don't? I don't mind girls who go out a fair bit, as I do myself. But we'd be going out.
I didn't drink the whole bottle or get hammered.
I had one glass of Pimm's. Thinking back, I drank the Pimm's because I like the taste of it; it is one of my preferred drinks.
The second and third drinks I had were at the office Christmas party in mid-December. Upon arrival I saw tables and tables of alcoholic beverages pre-poured, ready and waiting for me. I had another glass of Pimm's and I decided that would be my one for the evening. As time wore on, and more and more people starting getting drunk, I felt left out.
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I wanted that warm happy feeling. I thought that having a drink would make me feel happy. I had a bottle of Steinlager. Ad Feedback I don't even like beer. It didn't make me feel happy, and it didn't make me feel included. As I thought about it the next day, I realised I don't need alcohol to have a good time and I don't need to drink crappy beer to be included. That beer was the last alcoholic beverage I drank.
I wish I had chosen something better. Being sober has had a profound effect on me. When you quit drinking, you find out exactly how little you actually have in common with some people, and who your real friends are.
Sure, it's great to go and get hammered, but when you actually remember the conversations you have with these people, there are not a lot of mutual interests outside of alcohol. I had never realised how a group of people could bring you down and make you feel bad about yourself.10 Types Of Women To NEVER Date!
Since leaving those friends in the past, I feel happier than ever before. There have been social benefits, and physical ones too.
I have more energy and drive for the future. I can smell things better, my anxiety has decreased, I have better skin, I've lost weight and I have a better mental outlook. All of these came back to me when I cut drinking out of my life.
Looking back, I think I needed alcohol as a security blanket because I didn't know who I was. I wasn't confident enough and I would worry what people thought of me.
Now when I walk into a room, bar, meeting, party, I don't care what people think of me, because I know who I am, and I don't think I could have discovered that without this journey. This type of girl can be trusted, and should be trusted as it says a lot about who she is and how big her heart it. You're not dumb, and she's not the smartest person in the world but she works hard.
Guys like to win arguments whether they like to admit it or not, but when a girl has the upper hand, they don't like that. This hurts their pride, however girls don't care what your job is unless you have one. It's your personality and they way you treat them that matters—and you should love her for her brains, not use it against her.
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The good thing is that you'll have so much in common, but guys are afraid to date these kinds of girls because they're intimidated by them. Are they better at sports?
Can they chug more beer than you? Honestly, who gives a shit? Don't be embarrassed by her ability to get along great with your friends.
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The Stubborn Girl The one who knows what she wants and won't settle for any less. She has her eyes set on a personal goal, and she won't let you or anyone get in the way of that.
Girls believe that they should change for a guy to get them to like them, but this kind of girl won't do that. This kind of girl has worked hard to get where she is, and she has a take it or leave it approach to dating. When guys get into this kind of situation, it scares them.
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The Flirty Girl Yes, she may be a flirt. No, she doesn't actually like any of the guys she's innocently flirting with. When girls flirt without knowing it, it's mostly because she's friendly and she's in a deep conversation. Guys believe if they catch their girl flirting then that means she must be thinking about cheating. You're afraid to date this kind of girl because she's known to be a flirt, but you won't know how loyal she is until you trust her enough to show you.
The Mysterious Girl You have such trouble breaking down her walls, trying to understand what's going on in that head of hers. But this may not be a bad thing. If you stick with it, you'll gain her trust and you'll see those walls slowly break down. The problem is that guys run away from this because they don't want to deal with emotional baggage. Everyone has baggage, and you'll never find someone who doesn't.