The underlying dynamics in the young woman-older man relationship sexism cause older women to be seen as less physically attractive to potential mates. Skentelbery and Fowler therefore sought to compare AGR women with those in. Do you have to be a jerk to be successful in dating? (Source); Young women equate nice guys who are physically attractive, funny/witty. The truth about dating younger women If you are in your 30s, 40s, 50s, or even beyond, and you want to be with hot younger women, this is for you. up on your goals because they are “impossible” than it is to pursue them.
And they will work for your attention. They may not always initially share their accomplishments because they want people to like them for them, and not what they have to offer.
Be a little mysterious. Have open, confident body language. Lean back and relax. Being comfortable in your own space shows you feel you deserve that space. Get in shape and dress well. When talking about fitness and styleguys often become defensive. Looking your best says a lot about your personality. It says you care for yourself. It says you want to be healthy and virile.
It says you invest in being the best person you can be. And all that demonstrates you expect the same qualities in the people you date. Placing intense pressure on a woman is never going to excite her to be with you. A lot of men do this when they have a hard time getting a girl to hang out. Or when a girl is still casually dating around early on. I hope you understand.
You need to express your feelings without manipulation. Never commit to a date. So why do you keep trying? That will prove to her that you have no backbone or self-respect. Instead, go do things that fulfill you.
You can try two or three times to make plans. After that, walk awa y. But an awesome guy has a life of his own. Stop needing to prove yourself. Some women will challenge guys. Or they will bust their balls to see if they can handle it and flirt back. The worst responses you can give are. Make a joke out of it. Be silly and exaggerate. Or even playfully ignore her.
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Fabricio on November 9, Well thanks for the good work Nick. It was a really helpful article. Reply Sydney Woman on March 1, I was googling something completely different about men and your article appeared. Of course being spiritual I thought it may have a message for me…. I really want the good guys to get the awesome girls and this is the way to override our stupid biology. Stupid biology evolution in both genders, if only it would catch up with reality.
I am a pretty nice, easygoing guy and I like getting along with everybody. I tend to compliment most people a lot, just because I like to. Also because I want people to like me haha. But I have definitely noticed: When I walk up to them and say how beautiful they are, their eyes light up. But after a couple minutes, they walk away. I probably compliment people too much, but I do enjoy it.
Maybe I should experiment with not complimenting at all for a while and just asking people follow up questions to get to know them better. Nick Notas on November 8, I love giving compliments as well. I appreciate great qualities in people and love sharing value when I recognize them. I think the line is this: Instead of immediately complementing, give yourself a chance to know these people first. Ask questions that reveal their character, personality, and values.
Then I would compliment them on what they share with you. Also, as an ex-follower of your posts, after going through my own journey, I have to say that if your focus is to attract high quality women; then no matter what transformation you undergo, it will all be based on a foundation of neediness. Make peace with your issues with women usually stemming around your motherand the right people will naturally be attracted to you, for who you are.
This one is no exception. Nick Notas on November 8, Completely agree. Secure people want to connect with others who improve their life. Cheers to you as well man. Happy that my articles have been so helpful.
Thank you for the insightful comment. Reply Derek on November 7, Nice post Nick! I really enjoy and learn from or am reminded of important things your posts each week. But, I have to say I am pleasantly surprised at how week after week you are able to take dating concepts and relay them into, overall, being a better, more confident man.
As a follow-up to this post, I would like share something that I do that kind of helps with many of the items on your list in this article, and, in general, helps me be more organized and, thus, feel more confident and appear more confident.
And, that is keeping lists…hand written lists. I tend to keep a notepad in my carrier bad at almost all times. Not only is it helpful when you need an impromptu pen and paper, but I keep a variety of lists going on them. Keeping lists keeps me organized and focused on the things I feel are important. In a pinch, they are excellent conversation starters.
Feeling organized is awesome! Feeling and looking organized…. Just a random thought. Derek on November 7, Always a great read, Nick. Thanks for your continued insight! I can boost of being the man that any woman needs with your help over a year now. Remember, I just inspire and provide insight.
Great work my friend and thank you for taking the time to help and direct us all. I mean he can only be not available and a challenge to win over for so long.
No matter how mysterious, genuinely successful, engaged and confident we are, familiarity does breed contempt on both sides. Take this as a question or statement. I respect your work and will remain a loyal follower. Being less available early on makes sense.
But as the connection progresses, that obviously changes. That said, in a relationship you can still be that challenging, valuable man. You encourage and motivate each other. You have your own independent time, friends, and hobbies. You continue to refine and improve yourself.
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Also, part of it is communicating and growing together. Both partners have to work for the relationship. You have to truly love and respect each other. We work hard to keep that passion and go on adventures together often. I spent years dating around before getting into a relationship.
I wanted to work on myself and understand what I really valued in a quality partner. If you want to attract a certain woman you need to be able to develop some of those qualities that you want in a woman.
I think its a great way to look at things and take action in life! Nick Notas on November 8, Great advice. Whatever you expect in a partner, you should first expect it in yourself. Zac on November 8, Nick this was a really awesome post and pretty much exactly what I needed to read today!
As a university student I have found 13 having female friends to be one of the most valuable things you can do to attract women. Thanks and keep up the good work! Nick Notas on November 13, Glad you liked it so much Zac. Having female friends in college is great and definitely comes with some added benefits. Reply Don on November 13, Great advicewish i had gotten it years ago. Never forget what you are. The rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor, and it can never be used to hurt you.
Martin, Game of thrones-Tyrion Lannister. Reply Andrew on January 14, Women pursue?
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I broke up with my girlfriend got dumped. She is 24 and we were dating for 4 years, but she said she needed to know what it is like to date other people before committing to me… Ultimately the point is that she lost attraction for me and needed a break. I am following the ex factor guide and asked Corey Wayne what to do when I see her. What would you advise I do on the night? Go for the kill or play it cool.? Could really do with some advice. While sensitive to your pain — believe me I know how it feels — you are way too young to be talking commitment.
She probably just got tired of the relationship and wanted to try new men. Perhaps you should as well. The genuine time away will let both of you know in reality whether or not you really want to be with each other or it was just an attraction that ran its course.
Chris on February 11, Hi Seymoure, I forgot to type that I am actually quite a bit older than her. I am in fact 32… The age difference is not the actual problem. But I agree that her youth and lack of experience of other men might be. I suspect that the real reason for wanting to know what it is like to be with other men though is because she was no longer attracted to me because of my behaviour being less than perfect on numerous occasions.
Or to slowly attempt to seduce her again as Brad Browning suggests.? I appreciate your previous comment Seymoure, and Nick if you are reading this, your opinion would be valued! Best, Reply seymoure on February 11, Dear Chris, As Nick has said and I totally agree, you can never logically convince a woman to like or not like someone, including you.
I believe no matter what you do, she will end up doing what she wishes. Its only good when the desire comes naturally from within and we all know it when we have it. Corey Wayne although has some good solid advice is a bit on the rough and crude side in my humble opinion so take it for what its worth. These are all thoughts coming directly from Societal Programming. As such, these thoughts are all bullshit. I shall tackle each one: There is absolutely nothing wrong, immoral, or unethical about dating a much younger woman provided these three things are true: She is of legal age of consent where you both live.
Date all the younger women you want. There is nothing wrong or evil or immoral about it. Only when one of those three items above are not true do we start having serious problems.
There are millions of younger women out there who are dying for a confident, non-creepy, much older man to sweep them off their feet. Trust me, these women have a rough time. These gals hope beyond hope that someday they can find a non-creepy!
True stat from my life: Believe me, those women are out there. Sadly, there is some truth to this one. Many over women are going to be utterly furious at you. Other men your age, who are married to old, overweight, nonsexual wives may also be upset. I have two responses to this. The first one is…so what? The second answer to this is that no one said you need to get serious with these women. If you simply want a younger woman as an occasional FB, go ahead.
Date younger women in whatever capacity you desire. First, remember what I just said. Here are a few random examples from my life over the past years: The longest consistent relationship I have ever had with a woman outside of my nine-year marriage was an almost five-year relationship with a woman I met when she was 19 that lasted until she was One of the most mentally rewarding relationships I ever had was with a woman I dated for about 2 years, while she was 19 and then She was extremely intelligent and amazingly mature for her age, and we had many long, detailed, philosophical discussions that were the equivalent level of discourse as when I date a woman in her 40s.
While this is certainly not the norm for that age range, there are many women out there like this.
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I have really been blown away by the quality of many younger women out there. And yes, many younger women are the opposite, and are indeed dumb bimbos.
Keep those at the FB level. They can be fun too. Some of my most fun FBs were in the young dumb bimbo category. Unless you choose to live a monogamous lifestyle cough! No reason to limit yourself to one or the other.