Forever: An Interview with Jackie and Bobby Angel — SPOKEN BRIDE
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The culture tells us that this is what real beauty is. For our beauty to be objectified and pornified? To be noticed merely for outward beauty?
For my sexual values? There is nothing wrong with longing to be beautiful! In fact, we desire to be beautiful! But beauty goes beyond our outward appearance. As Leah has said before, supermodels are some of the most insecure women in the world.
Just look at Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta. Her passion for Jesus in the poorest of the poor seeped out of every pore in her body! Every wrinkle on her face testified to the sorrow, the joy, the exhaustion, the pain of seeing people be treated like animals and left for dead in the streets of Calcutta.
Yet, Mother Teresa saw Jesus in each one of them. Mother Teresa is one of the most beautiful human beings to ever live. She was beautiful because she loved, because she was holy. Their caveat, of course, is: The Lord, on the other hand, tells us to not listen to the culture and know that our beauty comes from Him! Our bodies are not objects to be lusted after, but glorious indwellings of the Holy Spirit! For you have been purchased at a price.
Therefore, glorify God in your body. Do not conform yourselves to this age but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and pleasing and perfect. Let your beauty shine through. The beauty of who you are! Are you super funny? Let it shine through your costume, like this chick who dressed as a third wheel.
Are you mega creative? Are you sporty or theatrical or quiet or a bookworm or in love with comic books? What we wear communicates to the world something about us.
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Well, I guess I can explain it a little better. Girls can usually see this issue for what it is. We guys, on the other hand, rationalize, make excuses, or are just simply too addicted to our lust to admit what is staring at us from the computer screen. Pornography is cheating on your family, cheating on your spouse, and ultimately cheating on yourself. Pornography is inherently shameful because we know—deep down—that something extremely personal has become entertainment.
The computer screen becomes a mirror that reveals to us our failure to be faithful—faithful as husbands to our wives, faithful in preparing ourselves to be a gift to our future wives, faithful to our call to be men of sacrifice as Christ was in embracing the Cross.
Many men want to believe this, but deep down they know otherwise. Shame and self-centeredness inevitably follows the repetition of viewing pornography, and—for a rapidly growing population of youth—addiction and acting out what has been viewed on screen. Waiting for my brother and cousin to find me, the magazine caught my eye.
She seemed angry, and yet alluring I do remember thinking it was strange that her clothing was falling off. Thankfully, I met some good guys through the campus ministry and we began to hold each other accountable.
I have to recognize my humanness and be vigilant. The temptation to view pornography usually finds us in moments of inactivity, boredom, or indulgence, and it breeds a cycle of self-centeredness and self-pity that just leads to further porn viewing.
Breaking the cycle usually means getting over yourself and going outside of yourself. Be generous towards your family or your co-workers. The seminary really hammered this point home to me, and to this day one of my seminarian brothers monitors my online activity through an accountability website www. We guys know that looking at porn is shameful, but by bringing it into the light we cancel so much of its power over us. And if we need some stronger remedy, we have to be humble enough to seek professional help.
Asking God for help is step 1. Pray for the healing of those involved in the porn industry, especially all the women addicted to drugs, alcohol, and whatever else may be numbing their senses or imprisoning their hearts. Doing a daily rosary really turned my prayer life around as well. Meditating on her tender femininity is a great antidote for the poison that pornography pushes into our veins. Mary will lead you in purity and lead you to her Son, and kick your butt in the process.
No matter how long or how deep the snares of lust have entrapped us, Christ can and does make all things new. We have been created for real love and for real greatness. We have been made for both sacrifice and responsibility. Gag me with a spork.3 Reasons Catholic Couples Don't Spend the Night Together Before Marriage
Unfortunately, there are a lot of confused and conflicted young adults out there who seem tempted to settle for a spouse. Listen carefully to me: Seriously, though, you are only called to marry one of them. You are not called to be a polygamist thank God!
Is this the one? In fact, both of us are still in shock that two human beings could fit so perfectly even in our faults with each other. Why do you not trust me? This is extremely difficult. Bobby and I can speak from experience—he broke off an engagement and I broke up with a man who was a month from proposing. Because I know that God wants us to be radiant witnesses of his love to the world.
When I was single, I was totally free to do this because I had peace and joy founded in Christ who completely satisfied me. I knew that the man I was called to marry would not make me feel imprisoned or trapped, but would give me freedom to be my authentic self, freedom to be a radiant witness for the Lord together, and freedom to love God, my neighbor, and myself more authentically. Freedom is huge in a relationship. Authentic freedom enables us to do what is right. Freedom in a relationship has the signs of peace and joy.
So, my question to you if you are in a relationship with someone to whom you are not married is this: Does your relationship help you to be freer or less free? Is your relationship life-giving or life-sucking? Here are some questions that you should ask yourself. Does your significant other abuse you physically, emotionally, verbally, or sexually? Do they pressure you to sin or make fun of you for not sinning? In an age where so much distortion and heartache comes from the misuse of our bodies, reading and learning the Theology of the Body was eye-opening and refreshing.
It put to words that ache for communion and gave us a tangible way of integrating our desires, rather than merely fighting or suppressing them. We both drank deeply of this vision before meeting each other, so beginning a relationship and a marriage--and now a family--with this understanding is a tremendous grace and responsibility.
We feel blessed to be able to share it with the world. What role does prayer as a couple play in your marriage? What advice do you have for engaged couples and newlyweds on how to begin praying together?
Be patient with each other! Communicate what you like to do together and also what you may prefer to do on your own.
For example, maybe you like to do the rosary together but spiritual reading alone; or vice versa. Figure out what works for you as a couple and stick to it. Also, different seasons of life call for changes. Make the most of the time you have; quality over quantity. Look at children as an opportunity of prayer and purgation!
If you could give one piece of marital advice to the brides and newlyweds reading this interview, what would it be? Learn how to communicate well with God, and learn how to communicate well with your spouse. Communication with God is what prayer is, and being honest with God about your hurts, brokenness, desires allows a lot of healing and freedom. Communication with your spouse is essential!