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Here are seven tips for dating at 50 that can make a big difference. As I mentioned earlier, a good number of singles over 50 are divorced. Divorced woman asks if dating over 50 puts her in "no-man's land." My perspective and advice for her. Now it's your third date and you feel the sexual tension building. Why is talking about sex so difficult for those of us divorced and over 50?.
You can be romantic and take the lead, but exercise patience. Guys that are too fast getting in are probably going to be too fast getting out. Chivalry and romance aren't dead -- in fact, they're alive and well and much appreciated. So take your time getting to know your date; ask questions, be curious. And when you've accrued a decent amount of courtship hours, then you can bang away.
In other words, you're furious. We get your circumstances might suck, but don't let it consume you.
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Don't let your anger turn into emotional baggage you carry around everywhere you go. You can prepare a lovely Italian meal for a guy, and all of a sudden he brings up the fact his ex made the best lasagna of all time.
They talk about how awful their ex-wives are, and how much money they had to give them. Dump the baggage, dude. Stop talking about your ex, your kids, your money, etc.
If you're still that angry and wounded, get help. Some therapy, meditation, or a little alone time wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for you.
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The point is, hold back from dating until you're healed. Listening and wanting to know everything about her earns you major points. Let go of your fear and allow yourself to love again. Chicks dig fellas in their 50s. Despite the occasional dating disasters and mating missteps, there's a lot to love about you guys.
You're older and wiser, smarter and sexier than you were in your younger days.
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Third, nothing sets off more untamed insecurities than sex. It might be over body image, past partners who disparaged us, or the age-old question, "Was it good for you? It's critical to discuss sex with a new partner, especially if there may be a future with this person.
No more living a life of quiet desperation, please! Here are six tips to get you started: Bite your tongue and never discuss your sexual routine in bed. Instead, find another time, when you are fully clothed and not blinded by lust or frustration. Acknowledge that this is awkward.
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Tell your partner what your bedroom preferences are. I love it when you do this say something positive. But I've got to tell you, when we do this: I'd much rather try this: Five minutes of you talking, max! Give your partner a chance to respond. Ask, "What works for you? Don't expect well-thought out answers. Don't take it personally if the talk bombs! It's the subject of sex.
As a therapist, I can tell you: Sex and money are two of the toughest topics to talk about. Describing our most intimate needs is at best challenging, often intimidating, and at worst, terrifying.
Think of it as a gift you're giving yourself and your new relationship.
If you put structure around the talk, keep your eye on the timer, and say it with true concern to make things better, you'll be setting the stage to enjoy your erotic adventures, as you're both getting your sexual needs met. Stay tuned to my blog next week for part two of "The Sex Talk. If you have a tough talk coming up or if you need help concerning your own personal challenges in other arenas Contact me personally Want more tips on the sex talk, right now?
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